Colors of a Closet

*This post originally appeared on Medium.com in the new publication A Simple Wardrobe.

Recently, I donated half of my clothes to Goodwill leaving me with still too many clothes for which I have no real love. In cleaning out my closet, however, a natural palette emerged.

While I enjoy looking at lots of colors and patterns, I do not enjoy wearing them. I like to stick to neutral colors and solid colors.

I consider my palette’s main colors to be black and white, but I often wear denim in dark blue and other neutral tones like olive green or warm greys.

I like having this neutral foundation because I am a collector of scarfs and mala necklaces. Both my scarves and mala necklaces have vibrant colors and fun patterns. I like that I can wear any of these items whenever I want without having to think about matching.

I am looking to increase the number of neutral-colored pieces to my closet as I find black and white to be quite stark these days. One of my next steps in creating my own personal uniform is to replace some of my less loved items with loved ones.

If you are interested in this topic, you can follow The Simple Wardrobe on Medium.

I just want a uniform.

*The following is my first post on a new Medium.com publication called The Simple Wardrobe.

I am a writer. Being a writer means constantly looking for ways to make time to write. Most writers, myself included, have day jobs and/or part-time jobs.

This is not a complaint, mind you. I’m just painting a picture.

I do not wear makeup. From time to time, I will run a large curling iron through my hair to add volume, but I will not commit to more than ten minutes to this task. Ten minutes is even too long for my taste.

Are you getting the idea? — I do not want to spend time “putting myself together” including picking out my clothes or shopping for clothes. Yes, I want to look nice, but I only really want to look nice to myself and my partner. Luckily, we both have the same idea of what nice is: cleanish.

I am willing to put in some time upfront to reap the benefits later. I love the idea of having a closet fully stocked with clothing that I can be easily mixed and matched, are comfortable, and are my style.

I intend to log my not-quite-fashion fashion journey here.

Notes About Links

I will use affiliate links from time to time, but not always. Please feel free to use or not use the links provided in my posts.

Notes About Photos

It is my intention to use photos of my clothing and sometimes of myself that I’ve taken. I do imagine from time to time that I will need to use a screenshot or the random Unsplash.com photo, but I will do my best to use my own photos.

Notes About Being An Expert On A Thing

To be an expert on a thing, you just have to know more than one other person about said subject.

I have been learning about fast, slow, and sustainable fashion for a couple of years…Maybe I do like fashion?

Wait — Before we move on, I’d like to note that when I use italics I am either a)sharing a title or b)letting you hear what’s going on in my mind aka talking to myself in type.

That being said, I am not a fashion expert, but I suppose by starting this blog, I am becoming a type of fashion blogger which is something I’ve never imagined doing. But, I do believe this will be great fun.

If you are interested in continuing, I do hope you join me once or twice a month here for updates, thoughts, and other interesting bits of information I discover.

If you have a capsule wardrobe, minimalist wardrobe, or monochrome style, I would love to hear from you in the comments as I need all the help I can get!

Also, if you are blogging about fashion, please feel free to link that blog in the comments if Medium allows that kind of thing.

Super Tuesday

It’s Super Tuesday! Cue the voting song!

I enjoy voting. I know that politics shouldn’t be viewed or experienced like a sport, but I get way into elections.

I am completely aware of how important they are, and even with all of that knowledge, I’m wearing my team’s colors and bleeding policy! I’m jumping on couches when debates on. I’m talking about THE elections and even more minor ones all the time. I even have political action figures.

Basically, I’m saying this – if you are like me and enjoy a good fight but at the same time are terrified of what will happen if things in this country don’t change soon, don’t worry. You’re not alone.

It doesn’t make you a bad American to be knowledgeable and enthusiastic about the people you are voting for, but it must be both.

Happy voting, friends.

I Lost It

I lost the short story I was going to send out to my reads on Valentine’s Day. I was using a new web-based application for writing, and I lost it somehow.

I do not blame the web application. I am certain it was user error which is all the more frustrating.

Moral of the story: Always backup your work, and write on paper when you can.

What The Hell Am I Watching?

I like to watch the debates in full before I listen to podcasts or read recaps, because while I am happy to read the opinions of others, I’d like to develop my own first.

What follows is my personal ramblings I typed while listening to/watching the debate that aired last night.

Did you watch the democratic debate last night?

I’m watching it now, and I have no idea what the hell I’m watching.

I’m not sure the live studio audience is a great idea. Maybe, we should have closed debates. The audience oohing and awing, clapping and laughing as the candidates land zingers on one another while entertaining is not helpful.

While the candidates were pretty well behaved, they spoke over their time, spoke over one another, and made cheeky comments at the expense of one another. How does that help us choose who is going to represent us? I mean, that might be exactly what we need here in Idiocracy land.

Also, are the debate still for us to learn more about the candidates or is it a place for the people “moderating” them to appear smarter than the people on stage?

I’m angry about this.

Let me be clear – this, politics and debates, are not my area of expertise. I want to make informed decisions when I vote. I still feel like voting is my duty despite understanding how our election system is fundamentally broken and needs to be updated.

I’m only in the middle of the debate as I type this, but I don’t feel like this has helped me at all so far.

I am going to stop watching it and pick it back up later, because right now, I’m just stressed out.

Publications on Medium

Medium.com is a blogging platform that allows writers to get paid for their articles. Before you get all excited, wait! This is not a “get rich” place. This is a “hopefully, make enough to buy coffee to fuel my next article writing extravaganza” platform.

I blog there from time to time to test ideas. I currently run six publications on the site. Publications are categories essentially, but you can use them for much more than that. For now, I use it for organizing as I write on a wide range of topics.

In fact, yesterday I started a new publication about my quest to have a uniform.

Here is a list of all of my publications and links to some of the articles. As always – I’m a writer. Not an editor. I am sure there are typos. Yes, I will fix them later. Now is not later.

Newest Publication – The Simple Wardrobe – https://medium.com/the-simple-wardrobe

Mind Your Big Red Dot – https://medium.com/mind-your-big-red-dot

Step People Magazine – https://medium.com/step-people

Barbara On Writing – https://medium.com/barbara-on-writing

On Love by Kahlil Gibran

Then said Almitra, Speak to us of Love.

And he raised his head and looked upon
the people, and there fell a stillness upon
them. And with a great voice he said:

When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to
him,
Though the sword hidden among his
pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in
him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he
crucify you. Even as he is for your growth
so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and
caresses your tenderest branches that quiver
in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and
shake them in their clinging to the earth.

Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto
himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred
fire, that you may become sacred bread for
God’s sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you
that you may know the secrets of your
heart, and in that knowledge become a
fragment of Life’s heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only
love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover
your nakedness and pass out of love’s
threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you
shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,
and weep, but not all of your tears.

Love gives naught but itself and takes
naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be
possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say,
“God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am
in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course
of love, for love, if it finds you worthy,
directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfil
itself.
But if you love and must needs have
desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook
that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own under-
standing of love;

And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart
and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate
love’s ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with grati-
tude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the
beloved in your heart and a song of praise
upon your lips.

Lily Dae Has Her Own List

If you read A Christmas Rideshare, you might be wondering when the next book is coming out?

There are two ways to find out:

One – join the Lily Dae exclusive email list! I am not trying to bribe you, but there will be a couple of vignettes about Charlotte and Opal coming to the mailing list as well as some previews of the next book in the Snowed In Love series which features a new crew of characters. Again – not trying to bribe. Just informing you.

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Two – You can join the PFP (Pilgrim Fowl Press) reader list. This list will update you on all of the new books, events, etc. that are going on at the small press including but not limited to Lily Dae stuff.

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